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Dating sucks

So, I met up with this guy I met online. We went out and had some drinks, had good conversation, then went back to his place to watch some TV. We made out quite a bit and all seemed well. He texted me the next morning saying he had fun and hoped I did too, well later on that day I asked him what the verdict is on another date. No reply.  Skip to the next afternoon when he tells me he doesn't know how he feels about another date and he's not sure we have that much in common!

Talk about  being blindsided! He kept giving bullshit excuses why he doesn't want to see me, while at the same time saying he had a great time! ::) I e-mailed him saying we can hangout if ever feels like it with no pressure or drama. I guess I shouldn't be giving him another shot especially since he doesn't seem to want one, but it went so well and I don't know what I did to make him never want to see or talk to me again!

What a jerk! Take it as a sign and move on.

I recently broke up with boyfriend and have been looking for a date. I talked on the phone with this one guy for an hour every night for almost a week, and we got along great. Then I offered to drive up and see him and got rejected. I think he "kind of" has a gf that he didn't tell me about. Not cool.

Agreed. Dating sucks.

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it so sucks! sorry to you both!

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Dude obviously isn't into you. Just move on.

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The above is usually what I experience.
I just keep telling myself that one cant rush mother nature.

I'll spill the beans on the dudes, many just want to get laid.
So, if you are a smart intelligent independent strong woman,
maybe putting out the feelers for a potential relationship.
Many dudes will pass on a good girl and hunt for something
easier to take advantage of.

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I'll spill the beans on the dudes, many just want to get laid.

This is true. This is also true about many girls. It depends on the individual but some will move on to other guys/gals. Some people just enjoy the companionship of going places, doing things, conversing, just hanging out without feeling pressured to do anything sexual. They do exist. I know it.

Just find out what works for you, be confident in those things and you'll find someone who appreciates you, your wants/needs/desires and quirks. :)

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Well said.

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in the same boat as you girls... met an awesome guy online... hung out with him once and he was really hot, we hooked up, totally hit it off... now he's acting too cool and not texting as much as he did at first... fuck the mindgames, so over it! we might hangout this weekend... i'm not waiting around for the douche to text me though

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Some people just enjoy the companionship of going places, doing things, conversing, just hanging out without feeling pressured to do anything sexual. They do exist. I know it.

I'll second that. I prefer the platonic company of women. I grew up with just a sister close to my age. In college I shared a very small house with two women and one of them became a very close friend. We would go out to clubs as she was looking to meet guys and I girls. She was beautiful so I was more than happy to be seen with her. We even went backpacking once. I was the gentleman, giving her the tent while I slept in the hammock. She assured me it was okay for me to sleep in the tent. By 2AM I was sharing her sleeping bag because it was so f-ing cold. There was no hanky-panky, nothing sexual. Just keeping warm. It is so cool to have that sort of a relationship with a woman with absolutely no sexual tension. I like having female friends but it is so hard for a straight guy to find platonic girlfriends. I wish there were personal adds for such things.

Straight man seeks woman for going places, doing things, conversing, just hanging out.

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I often get stuck in the straight platonic relationships.. (probably more my fault, and probably really frusterating to my male friends). I like it, i go and do things with them, little adventures, coffee, beer, hackey sac in the little grassy parts of downtown. all platonic, all fun. sometimes we will fall asleep in the same bed/vacinity and no sexual activity will go on. I personally really enjoy this, it is comforting to have male friends that aren't activly trying to get into my pants. platonic dating :D

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I need a personal ad to find my gay boyfriend.

Straight girl seeks gay guy for going places, doing things, conversing, just hanging out.

I LOVE having a guy around (besides my husband) but he HAS to be gay!

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I personally really enjoy this, it is comforting to have male friends that aren't activly trying to get into my pants. platonic dating :D

You meet all my platonic girlfriend criteria AND you like to cook and play guitar (as do I). To bad you are so far away ;)

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I LOVE having a guy around (besides my husband) but he HAS to be gay!

I guess I am lucky. My wife is totally cool with my platonic girlfriends. Just another reason to appreciate my wife  :)>>>

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Wow, what a response! Yeah, I think he wanted to have sex. And we didn't so I guess I really wasn't his type..

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now he's acting too cool and not texting as much as he did at first... fuck the mindgames, so over it! we might hangout this weekend... i'm not waiting around for the douche to text me though

I like this. No need to put up with this shit. If someone (male or female) acts like they can't give you some of their time, you shouldn't give them yours. And yeah, mindgames..don't get me started.. Let's just say I hate them and only pathetic fucks use them.

eta: I'm guilty of giving some people my time when I shouldn't. I'm a sucker for learning about everyone and I feel everyone has something to bring to the table. But one of the greatest things I've learned - don't give your time to someone who doesn't appreciate it or isn't willing to do the same.

I'm not saying you can't learn things about them. Just stay balanced and respect yourself. If you don't respect you, no one will.

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Wow, what a response! Yeah, I think he wanted to have sex. And we didn't so I guess I really wasn't his type..

well good thing u didn't... what a douche!

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now he's acting too cool and not texting as much as he did at first... fuck the mindgames, so over it! we might hangout this weekend... i'm not waiting around for the douche to text me though

I like this. No need to put up with this shit. If someone (male or female) acts like they can't give you some of their time, you shouldn't give them yours. And yeah, mindgames..don't get me started.. Let's just say I hate them and only pathetic fucks use them.

lol he actually started texting me again this weekend... but i don't feel like driving out to see him when i have to work early tomorrow... i told him we can chill next weekend, we shall see what happens, he seems totally my type so keep your fingers crossed for me!

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may be he find another one to hang out with . world is a big thing to xplore more and more . . . !!!

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now he's acting too cool and not texting as much as he did at first... fuck the mindgames, so over it! we might hangout this weekend... i'm not waiting around for the douche to text me though

I like this. No need to put up with this shit. If someone (male or female) acts like they can't give you some of their time, you shouldn't give them yours. And yeah, mindgames..don't get me started.. Let's just say I hate them and only pathetic fucks use them.

lol he actually started texting me again this weekend... but i don't feel like driving out to see him when i have to work early tomorrow... i told him we can chill next weekend, we shall see what happens, he seems totally my type so keep your fingers crossed for me!

I want you to be happy (a positive happy). And if this ends up making you happy, I'm all for it. Just be good to you, respect yourself, and the rest will follow.

-J

PS. Next weekend is a few days away. You might meet someone else and forget about this other dude.

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true words...

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I dont understand why I can find someone a little creative with a good heart.

I was talking to a girl I met online, we had good conversation, spoke on the phone.
Then she vanishes for two months and the other day sends me a text 'do you think youre better than me'
followed by a pic of her ass and 'did you get the pic?'

Im bewildered.

She said she's not a phone person.

I asked her how see reckons we hold interest for each other.

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