is it normal to orgasm when....
Posted by VegHeadZealia on Nov 05, 2008 · Member since Mar 2007 · 1665 posts
Is it normal to have an orgasm if you clench your abdominal muscles at the same time as your butt muscles? I mean...without any kind of *other stimulation*?
just wondering cause this this uhhh...happens to a...friend of mine... 8-) and I certainly don't want to ask anyone i know in real life....well it cant be too bad for you I suppose....
I think his girlfriends are having the most fun.
Umm, didn't you read where he is SURPRISINGLY not that popular with the ladies?!
Meanie.
He said it!
You bolded, enlarged, and laughed at it.
Oh..well..I just thought it was funny that he said surprisingly...I don't think he'll mind. :-*
:-*
I think we just kissed and made up... erm, virtually, of course.
OMG, we can totes get matching bff clit piercings!
:-D
;D Not that I was asked, but I don't think I want in on this. I would be up for a tattoo, though. Hopefully I'll have my 2nd one by then! Then, I could get a third. Maybe that would give me an orgasm..
Dudeee, getting tattooed turns me on ;D Two of mine are in my waste/hip area (vibrating tattoo needle in the perfect spot much) Haha.
SO I'm shocked with myself for returning to this thread (especially when I have not been on vegweb much at all lately but something has been on my mind), but I just gotta say, regarding the original question I posed for this thread...its not so fun to come so easily...like its really boring, in the self sex department...I come like ten times in less than five minuets...whats the fun in that? theres no thrill of the chase, no question of if I'm gonna get there...I pretty much cannot touch myself (sexually or otherwise) without orgasming....I'm not trying to be whiney here...boohoo, right, but...
but i mean....i dunno, its like...okay, heres the problem...they are all like teeny, tiny little orgasms-nothing great...and I have to completely stop stimulating myself once I have one or it hurts/is uncomfortable...so I cant get to any kind of BIGGER one because of the obnoxious little ones that don't do that much for me..you know what I mean??? and it litterally takes like two seconds to orgasm, is there something wrong with me???
omg this was such a great thread.
Hahahhha. oh geeze. This thread. I giggled when i saw it in the unread posts. I need to re-read this
zealia, i get like that SOMETIMES. But not alone really. Most like during sex. I get how it can be a good/bad thing at the same time, but mainly bad because there is zero work for it. Hmm. I wonder if theres ways to change that.
eta. Now I'm compulsively trying to get what was said in the first post to work for me.
bwahaha...yeah this thread is something else...still makes me blush a little...but we live, right...hah!
glad to know I'm not the only one with this frustration, undersarah...I know its more prominent at certain times of the month...like I'm pretty sure when I'm actually fertile is when its the most easily triggered...all i can figure is that nature wants me to have a baby something fierce, but its gonna backfire cause when i go to have *real* sex, I'm gonna come so quickly and the dude will just be outta luck cause I seriously cannot tolerate any more stimulation once I come...hummm. yeah. Im gonna be the worst lover aver. Im sure.
At least for dudes, there's the "stop-start" method of dealing with premature orgasms, where the partner (I'm guessing one could do this on themselves) stimulates the dude just until that (uh?) just-before-orgasm-point, stops until he feels it subside, and then resumes. Apparently this builds up his "endurance," and is supposed to work better than any of those de-sensitizing gels or squeeze technique.
I guess it also depends on what type of stimulation you're using to achieve orgasm. If you're using something vibrating, can it be put on a milder setting or can something be put between you and it? Also, if you're using direct clitoral stimulation, can you hold it off by only doing vaginal stimulation?
I've occasionally had a similar problem (not repeating orgasms, but getting one too quick). I'd say it definitely depends on the time of the month. But with a partner, I think it's easier to control because, at least for me, just vaginal intercourse is less stimulating to that end than direct clitoral stimulation, so one can control when it happens to a degree... hmm I'm making this all sound very medical, hahaha.
Now here is where i feel all shy and bluushy....ummmm....so....ummm ::).....okay....I'm kinda a little new to all this. I didn't even know until recently that there were differnet types of orgasms....someone told me, I didn't learn form experience...So, basically, I come by "humping" something....but I really think its more the act of having both my abdominal and gluteal muscles clenched at the same time and then putting any kind of pressure to my groin....I guess that would be citoral stimulation,,,which is the only way I know how to come...Several weeks back I bought my first dildo/vibrator and have been experimenting with pentration (trying to figure out how to climax that way rather than just clitoral), and that doesn't seem o turn me on...although I'm kinda interested in the G-spot thing KMK was talking about in the sextoys thread...Now, the vibrating portion of it I use for clitoral stimulation, and that IS a much slower way to climax...but i think part of what I like about masturbating is the physical exertion of it...like of release...hummm...also...having penetration +clitoral stimulation= orgasm in like litterally 2 seconds flat, but again- its the little bitty kind that don't do much for me and then it REALLY hurts to take the fake penis out of me...like I close up really tight after climaxing or something... Do you guys think I'm broken?
I feel really embarrassed to write any of this but I'm sure you guys wont judge me (I'm mortified to think of any one from my church or something ever finding this thread...what kind of retard picks their real name for part of their handle????)...I guess I have just gotten to the point where I'm not really sure I'm interested in ever getting married and I'm certainly not interested in doing that any time soon....and because I don't believe in having sex outside of marriage (for myself- y'all keep doing your thing ;)) I feel like masturbating is my best option...cause, i mean, I still have hormones., and like 10 of my friends who didn't believe in sex outside of marriage made really retarded marriage discisions because they were horny- and I just would rather take care of the job myself and be singel, as that seems to make me happier right now...I just feel a little guilty talking about all this and *gasp* mentioning I even bought a vibrator :o
I don't judge you and I definitely don't think you're broken! I'm not too sure what to advise though except experiment, give yourself time and try different things?. If there's pain when you try penetration with a fake penis maybe try with your fingers first? Not thrusting in and out with them - I am of the opinion that trying to copy the movement of a penis with anything that isn't a penis/penis shaped and sized is redundant. But maybe look into the g spot thing and see if you can find it with your fingers? It's easier than you'd think, I was the same as you and only knew how to orgasm from clitoral stimulation, and g spot stimulation was the first "other" way for me - simpler than I'd realised :-) So just experiment! And don't feel ashamed :-) Wanting to just be you and be able to please yourself is a really self-confident and awesome way to feel.
The male orgasm isn't as awesome as the female's. I know, even though I really don't.
Also, I miss this thread.
I don't judge you and I definitely don't think you're broken! I'm not too sure what to advise though except experiment, give yourself time and try different things?. If there's pain when you try penetration with a fake penis maybe try with your fingers first? Not thrusting in and out with them - I am of the opinion that trying to copy the movement of a penis with anything that isn't a penis/penis shaped and sized is redundant. But maybe look into the g spot thing and see if you can find it with your fingers? It's easier than you'd think, I was the same as you and only knew how to orgasm from clitoral stimulation, and g spot stimulation was the first "other" way for me - simpler than I'd realised :-) So just experiment! And don't feel ashamed :-) Wanting to just be you and be able to please yourself is a really self-confident and awesome way to feel.
This! You need to use your fingers to really figure things out.
The male orgasm isn't as awesome as the female's. I know, even though I really don't.
This makes me sad. I often feel sorry about this. A little. But not really.
The male orgasm isn't as awesome as the female's. I know, even though I really don't.
This makes me sad. I often feel sorry about this. A little. But not really.
I wouldn't feel sorry, either. I'd feel pretty awesome about it if I was a lady. I'm not unfortunately. Maybe someday I will know for real.
I mean, it equals out, given relative male/female sex advantages and disadvantages, I feel.
YOU WILL NEVER KNOW FOR REALLLLLLLLLLL >:D
YOU WILL NEVER KNOW FOR REALLLLLLLLLLL >:D
YOU DON'T KNOW!
:surrender:
I guess you do. I hate being a dude sometimes.
Technically "vaginal orgasms" and "clitoral orgasms" are the same, since apparently vaginal stimulation stimulates the internal "legs" of the clitoris that run close to the front end of the vagina. The G spot though? No idea. Maybe it's completely different, maybe not. I guess if someone can get an orgasm through the G spot, and then again through the clitoris, it's truly separate, but... it doesn't really matter. Whatever floats the boat.
It's ok if you're a little bit jealous, CK. You can tell us.
It's ok if you're a little bit jealous, CK. You can tell us.
You have no idea.
Technically "vaginal orgasms" and "clitoral orgasms" are the same, since apparently vaginal stimulation stimulates the internal "legs" of the clitoris that run close to the front end of the vagina. The G spot though? No idea. Maybe it's completely different, maybe not. I guess if someone can get an orgasm through the G spot, and then again through the clitoris, it's truly separate, but... it doesn't really matter. Whatever floats the boat.
Oh jeez. Who knew! Well I do know that a clitoral orgasm can pre-empt a g-spot one. Or, if you combine both types of stimulation then there is definitely something double happening. That's all I know. So complicated.
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