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Diva Club

Over on yogaferret's "for us ladies" thread many of us started talking about Diva cups (divacup.com) and other reusable menstrual products (keepers, etc). Turns out a few of us already use them and many more (10 at last count!) are in the process of making the switch-- and telling big tampon to go stuff themselves!

I started a poll to try to get a better count of those in the "Diva Club."  Using alternative products can be lonely at times because we are trained to view our periods as dirty little secrets--it is hard to know what someone uses unless you ask or they bring it up!

I thought it would be good to open a new thread more focused on reusable products. If you have questions, concerns, exciting things to share related to all things menstrual, this is your thread.  ;)

I braved a public toilet today....yay me!
I'm so excited about my diva cup.  I can't rave enough. 

Why isn't everyone wearing these things????  They should have ads on TV, and menstrual cups should be available in every drug store.

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I braved a public toilet today....yay me!
I'm so excited about my diva cup.  I can't rave enough. 

Why isn't everyone wearing these things????  They should have ads on TV, and menstrual cups should be available in every drug store.

yaya! public toilets!

you know why diva's aren't standard for the bleeders. i could, however, imagine a TV ad for the cup.  ;D for most, it seems like just lack of knowing about it (when you go to the store, what "options" do you really have, disposable or.... disposable?). i don't know how tampons are "okay" but a cup isn't. shesh, they both go up your vagina.  ::)

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lol@public toilets  :D
I think if women knew about cups, they would buy them.  I had never heard of a menstrual cup until it was mentioned on this board, I think.  I'd seen ads for disposable pads, but I didn't want to go through the hassle of washing them.  (I procrastinate enough with my regular laundry...bloody laundry is the last thing I need!)
No one I've talked to about menstrual cups has ever heard of them.  I think having a friend tell you about a product is much more convincing than just seeing an ad, but diva cup and keeper need to get more exposure... OBGYNs should be telling ppl about them, too.  In fact, the next time I go to see my doctor, I'm going to talk to her about the diva cup.

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I actually did see an ad for the Diva Cup years ago on the back of a public bathroom door.  I wanted to look into it since then but never did until all the vegan women started talking about it!

Also, I just finished my first full cycle using the Diva.  It takes some getting-used-to, but I am really happy with it.  Thanks everyone for sharing!

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I went to Whole Foods and bought my Diva today. The size is a bit intimidating, but I think I'll try it in the next couple days to get used to it before I *need* to use it. The stem isn't quite as long as I had imagined, but it might still need a trimming...we'll see ::)

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it folds up good and small-- no worries! let us know what you think when you use it "for reals"

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Using the Diva Cup for the 2nd month  :D & I have felt it pop open when I stand up (after inserting it) It feels like getting thumped from the inside....very strange. The first time it happened it literally stopped me in my tracks until I figured out what happened.

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ohh, jessesmum, that must have been weird!! i never had that-- i couldn't feel it doing anything once inside (other than plunging when taking it out  ;)). i always have that "i was just digging around in my vagina" feeling after emptying it. it is getting less noticable but when i first started it was like, ohhh weird. like getting used to pads or whatnot i imagine.

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Okay, I'm hoping someone can help a Diva noob here  :)  So, I'm trying to switch to the Diva, but I tried it today and I just can't even get it inserted just a bit.  It kinda hurts and I'm a wimp  :'(  The size is rather intimidating.

And when I say "noob" I seriously mean I'm new to inserting anything down there.  I've never used a tampon in my life (well, tried once, but same thing happened)...and for like the first time ever a used a mirror down there to actually try to figure it out. :o

There, I said it.  My vagina has put up with years of neglect and I'm pretty naive.  How do I get this thing in!?!

(a very embarassed LL is returning to her reclusive hole under a rock)

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Hi lizardlover, don't be embarassed. I can remember the first time I used a tampon & how much it hurt, so I know what you're talking about.
The size just looks big but it really will fit you nicely on the inside. I find that inserting it in the shower is best for me....because it's wet, it slides in, however maybe you need some lubrication to use with it. Slather it on like you would a...ummm, toy ;) then slide that puppy in. It should be effortless & not hurt a bit.
I think the best for you would be to take your time & practise when you don't have your period. I'd hate for you to give up on the Diva because of this, so relax & take it slow.
:) Good luck

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LL, I would say, without asking or needing any further information, if your hymen is intact, it could be painful or impossible to insert a cup.  If need be, get rid of that useless flap of flesh.

My routine includes (while sitting on the potty) washing the cup and allowing it to stay moist by immediately folding it in half and then half again.  It ends up to roughly the size of a tampon but you have to hold it closed and get the first half inch to full inch in before releasing.  Lubrication is vital, folding is vital, and making sure it unfolds and spins up into a comfortable spot is vital. 

If you are currently not menstruating I would recommend an appropriate lube before attempting!  Good luck and dont give up.

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oh (((((LL))))))

it will be better with practice. i am not a stranger to my stuff but had a hard time the first few times. the cup wants to pop open, it wants to do whatever, stuff gets in the way down there, your hand cramps up.

if you haven't spent a lot of time digging around down there, you might want to try that. don't worry about the cup but just feel everything and see how everything is positioned, angled, etc etc. then when you try the cup again it might be easier because you are more familiar with how your parts down there are put together.

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I had to look up noob.  I'm a noob to noob.  :) 

A couple of things come to mind.  1.  Try standing or crouching in different positions.  2.  If you're not used to anything inserted, then you may feel it while your body becomes accustomed to it.  3.  Roll the cup up like people have described in this thread and make sure you push it in far enough.  It doesn't need to be pushed way far in there, but if you're letting it open while it may be seated too far down, you may feel it more.

I know that society has us turning to stone if we know about our genitalia.  I didn't have a totally clear understanding of it until a male friend (who was dramatically gorgeous, which made it worse) diagrammed the female system on a napkin at Denny's and explained it all to me.  Why didn't I know more before that?  Because I was conditioned by society.  So, my other thought is maybe you aren't spending enough time moving the cup around and seeing if you can get it into a position where it's more comfortable, even if you can still feel it.  You have to spend some time, as I will forever quote baypuppy, digging around in your vagina.

And yet another thought - did the tampon hurt or just feel uncomfortable.  The first time I used a tampon I was perplexed about why so many women used them.  My sister, age 37, still finds them too uncomfortable to use.

If you keep trying it and it doesn't work now, don't worry about it.  Hold on to it and try again in a month or two.  The more I stress myself out about anything the more what I try doesn't seem to work right.

If there's anywhere to not feel embarrassed, it's here.

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I am SO excited!!!  I just checked my mail, and my divacup was there!!  AHHH!!! I am so excited.  However, I was a little bummed b/c today is the last day of my period (never thought I'd say that!).  Poor ordering planning on my part.  :(  Anyway, I immediately called my best friend (to whom I've been raving about the divacup, eventhough I hadn't gotten it yet) and as soon as we got off the phone, I took out my tampon and put in the divacup!  I was pleasantly surprised!  With all the above comments, I was expecting difficulty and crying.  However, knowing I just removed a bleach/toxin infested,landfill-bound tampon, I put a little lube around the edges, and I no problem inserting it!  Yay!  I think I may cut off the stem, but still not sure of that.  It's only been about 5 minutes (I had to post as soon as I got it in!!!).  Anyway, I'm so excited!  Another thing I've learned from vegweb!  I am way too happy for this! 

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yay lotus-- that is soo awesome! i think expiranced tampon uses might have an easier time. it's hard getting stuff in your vagina if you're not used to workin' it down there. and stuff.  ::)

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I think I may cut off the stem, but still not sure of that. 

Awesome!  I thought I was going to have to order one, but they had it at my HFS.  I was really shocked.  I had a problem with the stem, too.  It comes kind of in rings.  After I cut the first rung off it was fine (so far).  Try cutting a rung off at a time, that way you still have a bit of stem if you ever need it.  I find it helpful to have a bit of stem.

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it's hard getting stuff in your vagina if you're not used to workin' it down there. and stuff.  ::)

Ha! That reminds me of my first time. I had to ring my mum and ask what we were doing wrong.

Edit: Hmm, probably a case of TMI. Sorry.

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I had to ring my mum and ask what we were doing wrong.

we?  ???

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Not talking about tampons (or diva cups), anymore.

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I wouldn't think there'd be too many young women who'd ask their moms for advice in that area.  :D ;D
Made me chuckle.

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