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Diva Club

Over on yogaferret's "for us ladies" thread many of us started talking about Diva cups (divacup.com) and other reusable menstrual products (keepers, etc). Turns out a few of us already use them and many more (10 at last count!) are in the process of making the switch-- and telling big tampon to go stuff themselves!

I started a poll to try to get a better count of those in the "Diva Club."  Using alternative products can be lonely at times because we are trained to view our periods as dirty little secrets--it is hard to know what someone uses unless you ask or they bring it up!

I thought it would be good to open a new thread more focused on reusable products. If you have questions, concerns, exciting things to share related to all things menstrual, this is your thread.  ;)

those are some pretty sweet pictures... sure makes it a lot "smaller" for inserting. i do the "C" (i guess, U?) fold that they show and found it's easiest to put the curved bottom in first (pressed against the lower opening i guess) and then "tipping" the upper part in.

i find that sometimes i can feel it, other times i can't. most of the time when i feel it is when i just finished messing with it/the first day. after that my vagina seems to "get the hint" and embrace it in its warm vagina-ness.

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Hopfrog, do you mind sharing whether that is the Model 1 or 2?

It's a model 1 (no kids and under 30).

I know it looks big.  It looked huge to me too.  But I don't think I'd have a problem with the larger size.

Elizabeth

Dang, I was really hoping it was the model 2!  I'm <gulp> over 30...

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the difference between 1 and 2 is that the 2 is 1/8 INCH bigger around!! don't worry!!  ;)

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 Why am I feeling like I'm 13 years old again???  :D

That's exactly what I've been thinking.  It sounds like a good idea, but do I really want to go through that learning curve again after all these years?

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So I didn't make it through the day.  It was really uncomfortable the whole time.  Maybe it needed to be pushed in a little more, but I thought it was sitting correctly.  Taking it out was really easy.  Just pinch the lower portion of the actual cup and twist.  I'm going to try it again tomorrow.

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I'm real psyched on this thread (total latecomer here!)

I had heard of sponges and various keeper-type cups from friends and my dearly beloved BUST magazine, but this one looks the best so far.  Thanks for posting it, I'm going to try it out!! 

Hopefully saying adios to O.B.

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So I didn't make it through the day.  It was really uncomfortable the whole time.  Maybe it needed to be pushed in a little more, but I thought it was sitting correctly.  Taking it out was really easy.  Just pinch the lower portion of the actual cup and twist.  I'm going to try it again tomorrow.

I'm very sorry to hear that  :'( You are not supposed to feel it when it is inserted correctly.  I do remember having to fiddle with it my first few times until I learned exactly where it was best for me.  Sometimes that entails taking it out and putting it in a few times when you are learning (best when you have some time to spare).  Walk around, sit down, and lie down to be sure.  I remember once going to school in the morning with it in during the first period using the cup--I sat through a 2 hour class very uncomfortably.  I know now that the cup must have been inserted incorrectly.  Keep trying and you'll get it (hopefully)!  Glad that taking it out wasn't an ordeal for you---that was maybe the hardest part for me! I'm just trying to be encouraging. :)

Elizabeth

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I'm just trying to be encouraging.

Thanks.  It does help because then I know if what I'm experiencing is normal or if I still need to get used to where it sits.  I'm definitely going to try again tomorrow.

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I'm just trying to be encouraging.

Thanks.  It does help because then I know if what I'm experiencing is normal or if I still need to get used to where it sits.  I'm definitely going to try again tomorrow.

I've been re-reading some message boards to refamiliarize myself with problems some people have.  Some people do like the Diva Cup worn a little higher than the diagrams illustrate.  Mine is pretty low, but I do have to bear down on my muscles in order to reach it for removal (so it isn't right there at the entrance).  Definitely cut the stem off if it bothers you (I thought it was pretty uncomfortable and useless as it's much easier to pinch the base of the cup).  Good luck.

Elizabeth

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those linked pics make it look pretty 'soft'... or pliable

wow look at the numbers on the poll!!!

Humbolt_honey,
Is it hurting/poking/pinching or the fact that you can feel it that makes it uncomfortable?
I am kind of thinking that when mine gets here I'll want to cut the stem off right away, the stem is the part that makes me go  ???

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humboldt_honey, i had the same experience when i first started using mine. i figured it was because my body wasn't used to it! however, i could always feel tampons... yuck!! maybe i wasn't doing it right or something but i was always very "aware" of them.

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OK, you all convinced me! I bought a Diva Cup from the HFS today. I kind of snickered at all of the bright colors and the little pin that came with it. It's really not as big as I thought it would be!

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OK, you all convinced me! I bought a Diva Cup from the HFS today. I kind of snickered at all of the bright colors and the little pin that came with it. It's really not as big as I thought it would be!

the pin is AWESOME. actually, it isn't my style. i attached it to the bag  ;)

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okay, Im shy to post here...weird how differant people are comfortable saying differant things....about 8 months ago I decide that disposable femine hygiene products were a scam casuse they cost so much. They are also devastating to teh earth...so I made a few washable pads adn I really like using htem. But then my dogs got them and I have not sewn more yet. So Im back to teh disposable...I like hiking and camping and this seems like a really good option...I dunno...humm...I find tampons make me have really bad cramps (do other people experince this?) But I often have to waer them becasue I have EXTREAMLY heavy flows. I mean, I use and "super absorbancy " tampon and an over night pad but still get leaks in as little as 4 hours...I know that at THAT point, si should probally go to a OB/GYN or whatever tehy are called, but Im too shy. Ive never had (consentual) sex...so its all verry...you know. Plus, the female body was pretty mcuh a bad thing in my house growing up...

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okay, Im shy to post here...weird how differant people are comfortable saying differant things....

;D I don't really know how comfortable I was until baypuppy said, "digging around in your vagina" in the other post.  That cracked me up.

I like hiking and camping and this seems like a really good option...I dunno...

One of the things I like about the Diva cup is that it will make it easier to travel.  I have friends who live in the middle of nowhere (like the jungle or desert), and the cup seems perfect to pack.

I find tampons make me have really bad cramps (do other people experince this?)

??? Huh... tampons help my cramps.  Everyone and every body is different, 'tho.

I know that at THAT point, si should probally go to a OB/GYN or whatever tehy are called, but Im too shy. Ive never had (consentual) sex...so its all verry...you know. Plus, the female body was pretty mcuh a bad thing in my house growing up...

I don't have much advice here except that you need to do what's comfortable for you.  Heavy flows could be normal for you or it may be a symptom of something else.  It sounds like it would be a good idea for you to know for sure - for ease of mind if nothing else.  In my HMO, I think my regular doctor has to refer me, but I can call my doctor and ask for a referral over the phone. 

There are a couple of things you can do if you want to make an appointment with an OB/GYN.  First, you can specify that you would like a female OB/GYN.  In fact, if you make an appointment they should ask if you have a preference.  If they don't, it's absolutely okay to specify that.  Secondly, when you get there you can tell the doctor it's your first visit ever and they can explain things more clearly to you.  Third, know that everyone is shy when it comes to OB/GYNs.

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I tried the Diva, but I couldn't get rid of the "having to pee" sensation. I chalked it up to my g-spot being too prominant.  :P

I use cloth pads, which I prefer actually. I made my own, and I love them. I used to use disposables, but I switched over a year ago to cloth. And I am never going back!

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i'm glad people are talking about these things. i never understood why we can't talk about vaginas and bleeding. i taught soc of gender last spring and anytime i said "penis" "vagina" etc they would GIGGLE. these are college students, mind you. shesh.

i have some good websites for those interested in making cloth pads. both of these sites have picture instructions and downloadable patterns! a couple of my ex's used/made them and really liked them.

http://www.diapersewing.com/clothpads.htm

http://www.hillbillyhousewife.com/sanitarypads.htm

vegheadzealia, i also have a heavy bleeding problem, much like you discribed (now with the cup, i know the first day i can easily hit 2-3 oz in an 8 hour period!!) i thought this was FREAKY bad but the last time i went to the gyno she was like, oh, that's normal. my pap and everything was fine but something seems a little odd about it. usually with heavy periods they try to get you on BCPs-- it is an option depending on how you feel about them/how bad your cramps/bleeding are. i don't like them so i just suck up the heavy day and back up my diva with a pad. i've read many people say that their bleeding gets lighter after using reusables over time (cloth pads, cups). mine seemed to be until this last month sooo i guess we'll see?

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I mean, I use and "super absorbancy " tampon and an over night pad but still get leaks in as little as 4 hours...

I've been using birth control pills for about five years. Before that, I was extremely moody (like, my friends didn't want to be around me), had cramps that only Valium could control, my iron was always a  little low (despite supplements and fortified cereal), and I bled so much that I was changing super plus tampons every two hours. My ob/gyn said it was fine (well, the iron thing wasn't fine and they thrusted "dietary" pamphlets into my hands). Both my mother and my aunt (her sister) have the same issues. Some women just bleed a lot. And are really really moody around that time of the month. The pill can help, if that's a route you're willing to take.

I've also heard that dong quai can help "balance things" I guess.... Is mdvegan around? She'd probably have a good answer for herbal menstrual relief.

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Ive never had (consentual) sex...so its all verry...you know.

All the more reason to go. Sex = HPV for 20% - 50% of the population = cancer risk. A pap smear could save your life. (Do I sound like a commercial or what?)

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yes, you really should go in for a checkup. you mention you are at school-- do they have student health services? this might be a way to get around your family if you're concerned about them being unsupportive/weird/whatever about the whole thing. the women at my undergrad was fantastic when it came to exams but the lady i last saw here is a total buttmunch about everything (there is a thread on here somewhere where i complain about her). if you have any friends who have gone to see someone ask how they liked the provider-- hopefully that way you can find someone who isn't a buttmunch.

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Maybe I should. I dont have a student health center but I bet I could figure something out. I've had the heavey periods for the whole time Ive been menstrating...which started at 15. My doctor keeps trying to convince me to go for one becasue I was sexually assaulted, but it was by women, so I think its highly unlikly that I would have contracted anything. Besides, I got a blood test done to check for HIV and that was neg. And becasue it happened like 6 years ago, I think if I had gotten anything, I would have symptoms byy now, right? Not that that has anything to do with teh Diva cup....more the GYN...topic...

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