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any vegan moms/and non-vegan dads out there?

I'm just wondering (based on the likelihood that this is my future) what it is like to raise kids when one of you is vegan and the other is not? Do you  cook nonvegan meals? Will your kids be raised vegan? Does your non vegan spouse agree with feeding kids a vegan only diet? If your spouse eats nonvegan foods how do you deal with kids who want to eat what Daddy eats etc? Do you allow your child to try vegan foods when he or she is at a friends house, etc?

Just thinking ahead and I have no idea what I'd do about this yet. I feel strongly that a vegan diet is healthiest but, my boyfriend is nonvegan and I'm okay wit hthat.

I have a similar situation, I'm 100% vegan and so is my daughter.  My boyfriend/her father eats about 90% vegan...meaning everything made at home and in the fridge is totally vegan, but when we go out to eat he usually orders chicken or fish.  Hes really supportive and cooks vegan for her when I'm at work or school...thank goodness. She notices that her and I eat different from other people at family get togethers, etc...but for now telling her "we don't eat that" or "we don't eat animals" is enough for her....plus always having vegan alternatives for her avalible. ...which is kinda a pain, but worth it!

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My babies father doesn't agree with my son being vegan, he thinks he is too young.  At this point though, he is vegan mostly because he won't eat non-vegan.  He hates meat, eggs, and he is lactose intollerant.  Luckily his father is 1000 miles away, so the way things are are the way things are going to stay.  I am not going to sit here and force feed my son meat or eggs, and I am not going to bother getting him "lactose free" milk when soymilk is just fine.  I don't really get the point of "lactose free" milk anyway, why not just get soymilk, or some other non dairy milk?  That other milk can't taste too good, I have never had it, nor do I ever intend to try it, it sounds nasty.  If he is worried about too much soy, then I will give him hemp milk, or almond milk, or even oat milk.  He says he is worried about protein, but if he was here he would see how much protein my son eats, he gets plenty of protein, today for lunch for example we went to Panera bread and got their black bean soup in a bread bowl.  Yummmmy, by the way.  My son really seemed to like it and ate quite a bit of the soup along with the bread.  And he loves tofu, and tofu dogs, and Boca nuggets, and seitan "meat" balls with spaghetti sauce and pasta. 

I wish my son's daddy was as cool about it as your babies daddy!

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Ahhh the old "how are you getting your protein?!" fear lol. I blame advertising for this completely. I also hate the conversation about how I'm going to be missing out on the essential nutrients that humans can only get from animal meat and will be very sickly without. Where do people even get that?

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My ex hates me being vegan.  He was fine with it when we got married.  I'm not saying that will happen to anyone else, but just be careful.  My daughter is 99.9% vegan, and he hates it.  He thinks she hungry all the time because she is missing meat.  Lol.  All toddlers eating small meals all day long.  He thinks she is going to hate me for it later when she finds out how good "good food" is.  Lol.  We love what we eat.  He scares me for lots of reasons.  I've just taken a stand on several things, and as the noncustodial parent there isn't much he can do about it.  I hope I don't have to deal with DCFS, as he has threatened to call for years, but we will survice.  She is a happy, healthy child. 

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My ex hates me being vegan.  He was fine with it when we got married.  I'm not saying that will happen to anyone else, but just be careful.  My daughter is 99.9% vegan, and he hates it.  He thinks she hungry all the time because she is missing meat.  Lol.  All toddlers eating small meals all day long.  He thinks she is going to hate me for it later when she finds out how good "good food" is.  Lol.  We love what we eat.  He scares me for lots of reasons.  I've just taken a stand on several things, and as the noncustodial parent there isn't much he can do about it.  I hope I don't have to deal with DCFS, as he has threatened to call for years, but we will survice.  She is a happy, healthy child. 

LOL, this is something I have heard from my mother: "I enjoy food too much to give up meat".  I just laugh at that.  As if vegans don't LOVE their food.  If they could sit down with my spaghetti and setian "meat" balls, or tofu stir fry, or whatever, they would realize was I think all of us realize, vegan food isn't only healthy, but it is filling, satisfying, and down right DELICIOUS!  I think I now enjoy food more as a vegan then I ever did as an omni.  Poeple are just so silly.

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Same here SnowQueen, there are so many delicous foods and recipes out there that are vegan! Since becoming vegan I've enjoyed so many different ways to eat and cook, which I never would have tried. I think meat is so boring. On the other hand, my fresh thai rolls and tamari roasted eggplant and berry smoothies and pumpkin crusted scallopini and....(I could go on...) are so satisfying! People are convinced that eating meat and dairy is what holds them together but really it's what holds them back.

....stepping off my soapbox now....

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People are convinced that eating meat and dairy is what holds them together but really it's what holds them back.

Exactly :) Very well said! Why are people so scared of trying different things? 

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Exactly.  It is funny that they think I'm so limted in what I can eat.  Maybe because I am very limited in restaurants.  For the most they eat the same things repeatedly.  I enjoy my food much more now and am constanting trying new things.  My friends have kids that won't eat anything that doesn't taste like the processed brands they are used to.  Theiir taste buds are so limited.  Its kind of funny.  I have an older friend that clearly doesn't understand veganism and was always worried about what I feed myself and my child.  I started sending her pictures of dinner everynight.  Before too long she was asking for samples and recipes. 

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I don't have a child yet, but when I do I will raise him or her vegan for sure! My husband is probably 80% vegan, eating vegan with me at dinner and most meals on the weekend. Usually only eating non vegan during his lunch break and at restaurants. But he agrees with me that is a healthier diet than a "normal" diet.

I hate the "Where are you getting your protein, calcium, essential vitamans (blah blah blah)?" questions. As an au pair I worked with a "healthy family". They ate variations of the same meal every night- meat, potatoes, rice, pasta, a little green salad. Their "healthy" children occasinally ate fruit, but for the majorities of their snacks ate sweets and cheese. When I told them that after my contract was done that I would be working for a vegetarian family, the father immediatly asked me if they drink wine. I told him I was unsure if they did and his response was "probably not, wine is meant to go with 'food' and they're vegetarian".  Insanity!

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I started sending her pictures of dinner everynight.  Before too long she was asking for samples and recipes. 

This is a great idea!  I think I may do this with my mom and BD. 

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I don't have a child yet, but when I do I will raise him or her vegan for sure! My husband is probably 80% vegan, eating vegan with me at dinner and most meals on the weekend. Usually only eating non vegan during his lunch break and at restaurants. But he agrees with me that is a healthier diet than a "normal" diet.

I hate the "Where are you getting your protein, calcium, essential vitamans (blah blah blah)?" questions. As an au pair I worked with a "healthy family". They ate variations of the same meal every night- meat, potatoes, rice, pasta, a little green salad. Their "healthy" children occasinally ate fruit, but for the majorities of their snacks ate sweets and cheese. When I told them that after my contract was done that I would be working for a vegetarian family, the father immediatly asked me if they drink wine. I told him I was unsure if they did and his response was "probably not, wine is meant to go with 'food' and they're vegetarian".  Insanity!

haha!
My dad is always surprised we have coffee and bread because he thinks that we don't eat anything "real" and that we must have substitutes for those things.
I've been asked about alcohol as well!
I bet those people who ask us where we get our nutrients such as protein or calcium have no idea where they get theirs! Most people are pretty ignorant when it comes to knowing which foods provide which nutrients. I think I will start asking them.....

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I'm vegan and my DH is not, but he'll eat whatever I make at home. It's a personal choice, so I don't mention it. Our kids are vegan at home, but they can eat whatever outside of it, because I'd rather that they be given the choice when they get older. Plus, it's pretty tricky as an adult to stay 100% vegan in Holland.

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Aggplanta have you discussed the issue with your boyfriend? I'm in the same boat, but we talk about it all the time. I was actually about to post this as a subject when I came across yours. I see a few of you have essentially nonvegan significant others..mine however is mostly not. He thinks of vegetables as a sidedish! Now does anyone out there have a similar situation or know of someone? We decided we'd move in together before marriage or kids to see if we could make it work. But I'm curious if anyone has lived it! We agreed to a compromise as far as the kids, they can have *some* organic dairy. But my concern is when we sit down to dinner and Daddy's eating something different. It's been suggested to make a vegan version of whatever he's having but-as my bf pointed out, eventually they'll catch on..Thoughts?

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I am vegetarian - coming closer to vegan by the day, and my dh is omni. Our 18 month old is vegetarian so far. Since we're Orthodox Christians, we are all vegan about half the days of the year (Lent, Advent, Wednesdays, Fridays, etc). So, my dh is very vegetarian friendly and likes my vegetarian cooking. On the other hand, I am omni-friendly in that I cook meat and dairy for him on days when he eats it.

So far, it has worked to describe meat as "daddy-food" for the baby - she seems happy to have mommy-and-baby food and daddy-food on the table. Asks for everything but the meat.

I think the important thing is love, respect, and a cooperative attitude - not a "perfect" diet. We each try to accommodate the other's dietary needs and preferences, and so far, it's been working, thank God.

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I am the only strict vegan in the house. My husband and son (age17.7 years old) will eat anything regardless of its meat or lack of meat standards. My middle child complains a little more we are living in TN after all. She loves her southern foods, especially southern fried chicken. So, she eats a lot of chicken dishes and has the occasional burger. My youngest one, is mainly vegetarian, but every once in the blue moon will eat tuna and the occasional burger joint burger.

We stopped purchasing regular milk a few months ago. I bought it for them, even though I was against it. They really never cared for soy milk, save for my youngest daughter.  Then my husband brought me home almond milk, which I had yet to try. I have to say, if you ever want to win someone over the no more cow milk, give them almond milk.

I thought about it, and vegans are always judged harshly because of militant vegans. They are usually the ones in the spotlight. Now, as seen in a last season I believe episode of House. One of his sub patient plots had to deal with a young white couple who were feeding their new born infant a vegan diet. He thought they were idiots and pretty much accosted them. UNTIL, half way through the episode the mother stated that their relative was a nutritionist. Light BULB. You aren't idiots, and found out something else was wrong with the baby. Yes, the episode ends fine.

But in  many ways, it let people see that all vegans aren't freaks, much more they care enough to make sure that they are doing the best for their babies too. So, for those of you that have ex spousal problems. If you truly worry they can pull the freako vegan card. Make sure to seek out a Vegan/Vegetarian nutritionist. They are easy to fine and many will stand up for you too.

Oh, and for those picky teenagers. Try the stuffed shell recipe on this site. It is sure to win them over! LOL My daughter (southern fried chicken one, yeah) she loves it and requests it frequently, even more so than the real stuff. Actually, come to think of it. She never requested just appreciated the old way with cheese. She DOES request the vegan approved one. LOL

Love and Peace to all. Happy healthy and safe eating.

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This is my life!  Though Mike, my fiance, eats what I make, he still eats meat and whatnot whenever I don't cook or he's out somewhere.  Our kids, 12 and 4, eat some of my veggie food, but also some of his omni food.  I guess the happy medium  we've come to is he respects me for my convictions and decisions, and I respect him for his right to choose.  Finding that balance means our children have the opportunity to decide for themselves.  Is it perfect? No.  It's nice to know there's other people out there with the same situations!  I enjoyed reading everyones responses! 

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My kids (both teens) and I are vegetarian. My hubby is not, but he has been extremely supportive of our choice, which the 3 of us made together a little over 2 years ago. He said he will eat whatever I cook provided it tastes good and so far there have been no complaints. As a matter of fact, some of my veg meals are amongst his faves, lol! He still buys potpies and such and also eats what he wants when we go out to eat or at work. Our life works for us because we all respect each other's choices. :)

I also still get grilled by people on the whole protein issue and the fact that we were designed to eat meat... ugh! I told someone last weekend that just because we can doesn't mean we should. He shut up!

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I am vegan, my husband an son are not. I have my own set of cupboards in the kitchen. This is not an issue anymore, although eating at a restaurant is not enjoyable for us and everyone wonders "what will mom eat?" I can take care of myself I tell them and prefer to eat food in it's natural state anyways and i always have at least 4 pieces of fruit with me in the car. My son is 6 and knows that although I love butter and cheese (because he loves them too!) I don't eat them anymore. I try to down play the animal aspect and push the fact to eat lots of colours everyday, especially something green. I have a great cookbook that provides "sneaky sliders" recipes. I can make kraft dinnr with pureed white beans and sweet potato added to the cheese sauce and nobody knows.
I want us all to have an enjoyable experience with food and no issues. I would like my son to make his own choice as he grows up and have a healthy attitude toward food.
I don't want to exaggerate the difference between mom and dad. I have been married 22 years, went vegetarian about 10 years ago and vegan 7 years ago. my husband has not always been supportive (especially through my vegan pregnanacy) but being vegan is something  i truly believe in.
GoodLuck!

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I can relate to what many of you are saying.  I'm vegetarian, my husband isn't, but he's very supportive and agrees with all the principles.  I don't buy or cook any meat, but he still loves and compliments every meal I prepare.  I strive for high-quality, nutrient-rich meals, and even the children enjoy it. 
Once a week or so, my hubby feels the need to splurge and have a little meat.  It's his choice, so I don't interfere.  I figure he eats far less of it than a typical omni. 
The bigger problem is that I can't control what my children eat when they are not at home.  It's their choice, but I hate it.  When I pack their lunches for school, they still buy the corn dog and jello (yuck!) in the cafeteria and only eat the whole grain organic cookies I pack.  So, I've given up.  It's a losing battle. 
I hate that available foods are meat-centered and so low-quality pretty much everywhere but home.
So I work like an obsessive freak, overcompensating, to feed them healthily and ethically when they are at home. 
My hubby's coworkers (construction guys) tease him over his super-healthy vegetarian packed lunches, but he's proud.

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Aggplanta have you discussed the issue with your boyfriend? I'm in the same boat, but we talk about it all the time. I was actually about to post this as a subject when I came across yours. I see a few of you have essentially nonvegan significant others..mine however is mostly not. He thinks of vegetables as a sidedish! Now does anyone out there have a similar situation or know of someone? We decided we'd move in together before marriage or kids to see if we could make it work. But I'm curious if anyone has lived it! We agreed to a compromise as far as the kids, they can have *some* organic dairy. But my concern is when we sit down to dinner and Daddy's eating something different. It's been suggested to make a vegan version of whatever he's having but-as my bf pointed out, eventually they'll catch on..Thoughts?

I just recently became a vegan and my live in boyfriend is not, he too things of vegetables as side dishes! My son is  2 1/2 years old  and I share 50/50 custody of him with my exhusband. I'm struggling with converting my son to Veganism (which I would prefer) because I can't control what he's eating 75% of the time (50% with daddy and 25% with my boyfriend during the day while I'm working). What I've tried to do so far is make vegan versions of the meals (yes, I'm still preparing meat for my darling until he learns to cook the meals for himself) and most of the time my son wants to eat what I'm eating anyway. It's very frustrating to have to explain to people why it's ok for him to eat "vegan food" and that I'm not jeapordizing his health. . . . as far as the boyfriend? he refuses to try anything I prepare that he knows is vegan. So I'm wondering, do I try to trick him? or just let it go . . . it's SO hard! 

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