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I have a vegan 2 yr. old, and thought it would be nice to meet other vegan parents. Share stories, recipes, ways to deal with doubting relatives, etc. For example, I had the doctor do an extra anemia test when my mother-in-law was visiting, just to shut up her very nice, very annoying concern about what my daughter eats. She's just now starting to understand that there are some things we do not eat. I'm slightly worried about pre-school and beyond.

I think you should talk to little2ant 'cuz she's a mommy too.

Good Luck  ;)b

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We are newly vegan, (first of the year), I have a 19 month old daughter and a 3 year old son. It is very hard. People judge unfairly and my son's preschool never listens/understands when I tell them that he can't have certain things. I pack a lunch for him every day and he isn't old enough yet to speak for himself.

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Have you tried telling them its an allergy issue? Sometimes that is what it takes.

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Have you checked out the vegan lunch box? http://veganlunchbox.blogspot.com/

It's a mother writing about what she packs in her son's lunch. It's really interesting.

I am not a parent but I have already decided I will raise my children vegetarian and possibly vegan and have been told by many that "I cannot do that" because it is tantamount to child abuse. I think that belief is stupid, there are doctors who support a vegan diet at all ages because when done right you end up with healthy happy children.

I think you should be prepared for other parents to criticize your choice, and when your daughter gets sick they will blame her diet and not the fact that she was licked or kissed by another child in daycare. I think you are doing the right thing by sticking to your guns and proving that your chosen lifestyle is not endangering your child. 

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ppk has an entire board dedicated to parenting.

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We only recently went vegan, but we raised our two kids vegetarian. As another poster suggested, I finally had to resort to "allergies" to stop well-meaning but incredibly intrusive people from making us nuts. One of my DD's favorite sandwichs as a kid was a sandwich spread made from cottage cheese, shredded swiss cheese, scallions, finely chopped green pepper and tomato. One day, the "lunch duty lady" came up, took Siobhan's sandwich out of her hand, made a rude comment about "eating weird stuff" and threw her sandwich in the garbage, where she said it belonged. Both my kids are healthy and always were, but if they got so much as a cold, people said it was because they  didn't eat meat. Our pediatrician was always amazed that my kids weren't anemic...he thought not eating meat spelled nutritional disaster. Today DH, DD and I are vegan, as is her boyfriend, and DS is still lacto-ovo. My only regret is that we didn't go vegan 25 years ago...then the kids would have been. Good luck with those who criticize...it comes with the territory, I fear.

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I think you should talk to little2ant 'cuz she's a mommy too.

Good Luck  ;)b

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Thanks for thinkin of me!
I have a 7 year old mostly vegan boy and one on the way....
It has been pretty easy for us-but our boy is pretty easy going and doesn't argue too much with our values. I always sent in his own snack to school and he is just used to eating a little differently. Tomorrow they are doing worms in the dirt (gummies and pudding) and i am sending in his own tofu pudding and vegan gummie bears....he thinks its funny that he will be digging up bears instead of worms!
I do think it gets easier when they can speak for themselves. He used to just grab at everything on people's plates and I was always worried he'd end up with a piece of meat in his hand from a relative .  Now i dont have to worry when he's eating and im not there because he would turn down meat from anyone.

He has turned down numerous treats and things on his own-even at 3. I started explaining things pretty early. I think it helps for them to know that that the food you eat at home such as "icecream" or "milk" or "burgers" are "veggie-whatevers"...that way when the child sees those things in the mainstream you can just say, "those aren't VEGGIE icecream bars" and that way she starts to understand the difference. I just started calling everything "veggie this and veggie that". I think its important that they know the food you are eating is different so you dont end up with a public meltdown.

There are times at birthday parties where he might have a regular cupcake. I dont make an issue because i think its hard for little kids to make choices like that. He always asks first and I just say ok. I am worried about turning him off completely to vegetarianism so I try not to be too militant and pick my battles. He sees it as so positive right now, and I sure don't want him to see it as something negative.

His teacher is vegetarian so they have a connection and she has said how he will stand up for himself and is not shy or embarrassed by it.

I love having someone else to roll my eyes with when a mcdonald's commercial comes on, or a meaty cooking show. He also told me that IF he gets married, he wants it to be a vegetarian girl! way to think ahead! ;)b

He has even made some AR art!!

my boy is on the small side, but so am i-and he is MUCH bigger than i was at his age. some have tried to blame it on his diet, but then others say,
"well, have you seen his mom!??" dad isn't very big either ;)
oh, and we werent raised veg....just naturally small i guess?

the other day a mom brought in cupcakes for her DDs bday and she brought noah a tofutti cutie! i hardly even know this mom! I thought that was really sweet! This area is pretty accepting of weirdness in many forms.

gosh, i feel like im bragging, but he is a great kid! :)>>>

I wouldn't change a thing....and I sure hope boy #2 is as easy...i have a feeling he's going to be a devil >:D ;)

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I have a 7 year old mostly vegan boy and one on the way....

I love having someone else to roll my eyes with when a mcdonald's commercial comes on, or a meaty cooking show. He also told me that IF he gets married, he wants it to be a vegetarian girl! way to think ahead! ;)b

gosh, i feel like im bragging, but he is a great kid! :)>>>

I wouldn't change a thing....and I sure hope boy #2 is as easy...i have a feeling he's going to be a devil >:D ;)

Your son is fabulous! I've read several posts where you've talked about him, and I loved his response to that veggie video.  He sounds so very smart! You didn't sound like you were bragging at all, and if you weren't...you should have been!  ;) I'm sure it will go smoothly with any other children you have b/c they have a great mom!  :)

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I agree, little2ant should brag! Good for you. I agree, vegan parenting is not that hard when you explain things to your kids. My 5 year old has been vegan all her life, and is very strict just on her own. "Does that have cow's milk in it?"  "Is it vegan?" I hear stories from her friends parents, who say they wish their kids were as committed to a healthy diet!

Anyone who wants to share, I am almost finished with my book. It will have some info on vegan parenting, mostly cuz I just get really pissed off when I hear those horror stories about bad vegan parenting, and people think it is about veganism. No, it is about uneducated parents. I nursed my daughter, and fed her vegan food after that. And she is freakishly healthy and strong!

Thanks for starting this post! Seriously, if anyone wants to make a contribution, you can e-mail me at eval(unescape('%64%6f%63%75%6d%65%6e%74%2e%77%72%69%74%65%28%27%3c%61%20%68%72%65%66%3d%22%6d%61%69%6c%74%6f%3a%71%75%69%6e%74%65%73%73%40%63%61%72%65%32%2e%63%6f%6d%22%3e%71%75%69%6e%74%65%73%73%40%63%61%72%65%32%2e%63%6f%6d%3c%2f%61%3e%27%29%3b')). Unfortunately, it will need to be soon, as I am trying to get my book submitted by May 23rd at the latest.
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I agree, little2ant should brag! Good for you. I agree, vegan parenting is not that hard when you explain things to your kids. My 5 year old has been vegan all her life, and is very strict just on her own. "Does that have cow's milk in it?"  "Is it vegan?" I hear stories from her friends parents, who say they wish their kids were as committed to a healthy diet!

Anyone who wants to share, I am almost finished with my book. It will have some info on vegan parenting, mostly cuz I just get really pissed off when I hear those horror stories about bad vegan parenting, and people think it is about veganism. No, it is about uneducated parents. I nursed my daughter, and fed her vegan food after that. And she is freakishly healthy and strong!

Thanks for starting this post! Seriously, if anyone wants to make a contribution, you can e-mail me at eval(unescape('%64%6f%63%75%6d%65%6e%74%2e%77%72%69%74%65%28%27%3c%61%20%68%72%65%66%3d%22%6d%61%69%6c%74%6f%3a%71%75%69%6e%74%65%73%73%40%63%61%72%65%32%2e%63%6f%6d%22%3e%71%75%69%6e%74%65%73%73%40%63%61%72%65%32%2e%63%6f%6d%3c%2f%61%3e%27%29%3b')). Unfortunately, it will need to be soon, as I am trying to get my book submitted by May 23rd at the latest.
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quintess....do you mean share vegan kid stories?
i can email you some good quotes from noah!

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Hey, my experience with veg playgroups is summed on on this thread from a while ago:

http://vegweb.com/index.php?topic=13090.0

I have three veg children (ages 8, 6 and 2) and while my experience wasn't the greatest, I encourage you to try to do it.  I was inspired to do it after reading an article in the now defunct Vegetarian Baby & Child magazine by a woman who started a veg playgroup in California that grew to something like 75 families.

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Does anyone have adopted vegan children?  If DH and I ever have a human family to raise, we want to adopt, but not a baby.  We're more interested in the 2-6 year old age group.  I wonder how hard it would be to transition them over?  What would adoption agencies think about our plans?

Kudos to all the veg parents!

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Hey, my experience with veg playgroups is summed on on this thread from a while ago:

http://vegweb.com/index.php?topic=13090.0

I have three veg children (ages 8, 6 and 2) and while my experience wasn't the greatest, I encourage you to try to do it.  I was inspired to do it after reading an article in the now defunct Vegetarian Baby & Child magazine by a woman who started a veg playgroup in California that grew to something like 75 families.

That's too bad. People like that can be so hard to deal with! Yes, I am a vegan, but I almost hesitate to tell people (or ovo-lacto vegetarians) because I don't want them to feel a divide. Yes, I agree we are all in it together! I am not the strictest vegan, I will admit. We eat honey and don't ask a million questions on the very rare occasion we go out to eat. Is there whey in the pita bread? I don't know, and will survive if there is. I have had other hard core vegans totally act shocked that I am not more "strict" in those ways, but maybe that is what has kept me a vegan (or 99.9% vegan) for almost 17 years. Anyhoo...just a little commiseration! :)

Little2ant.....
Sure, anything you want to share that you think would make a good addition to my book. Mainly, I would love to feature a couple other people who can say, "Check out my flippin way healthy vegan kid!" besides me. It's funny, my daughter is "little" too, but bigger than I was at her age! And waaaay healthier than I was, eating hot dogs and other junk! ;)

mdvegan...
adoption is so cool! I think you could transition kids over without too much trouble. All my daughter's meat eating friends love the food we make, and some even say it is their favorite! Even if they were attached to hot dogs, for example, you could give them veggie dogs occasionally if they needed some familiarity. Also, all the adoption agency would need to know is that you would make healthy meals. They don't need to know if you're vegan...at least I wouldn't tell them....

OK, enough procrastinating...back to my book.... :P

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Does anyone have adopted vegan children?  If DH and I ever have a human family to raise, we want to adopt, but not a baby.  We're more interested in the 2-6 year old age group.  I wonder how hard it would be to transition them over?  What would adoption agencies think about our plans?

Kudos to all the veg parents!

my friend adopted a girl from viet nam, at age 9 months. she raised her as a vegan. Im not sure they even mentioned this to the agency? I dont think there would be a need to.....

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Does anyone have adopted vegan children?  If DH and I ever have a human family to raise, we want to adopt, but not a baby.  We're more interested in the 2-6 year old age group.  I wonder how hard it would be to transition them over?  What would adoption agencies think about our plans?

Kudos to all the veg parents!

I remember an article in VegNews a few months ago about veg*n parents adopting... You should probably check it out if you can. I'm going to hunt for my copy of the issue... hold on... Ok, I can't find it. But it's out there somewhere. I wonder, do they have past articles posted on their website?

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Ok, I'm sorry for asking what may be an uneducated question (but that's how we get educated right?).  Naturally, with my recent engagment there are children questions.  My husband to be is omni but I plan is to raise my (possible child) as vegan as possible and allow them to make their own choices when they get old enough.  The questions I'm getting are if I'm vegan while I'm pregnant, my child may be born with lactose intolerance.  I think this is silly because I know plenty of people who are lactose intolerant and their parents ate meat, but still, is there any information on this?  I'm going to have to prepare myself with an arsenal of data. 

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Ok, I'm sorry for asking what may be an uneducated question (but that's how we get educated right?).  Naturally, with my recent engagment there are children questions.  My husband to be is omni but I plan is to raise my (possible child) as vegan as possible and allow them to make their own choices when they get old enough.  The questions I'm getting are if I'm vegan while I'm pregnant, my child may be born with lactose intolerance.  I think this is silly because I know plenty of people who are lactose intolerant and their parents ate meat, but still, is there any information on this?  I'm going to have to prepare myself with an arsenal of data. 

I think its a crock!
just tell 'em little2ant said so! ;)
really though, I have several carnivorous relatives who are LI.....
don't they say everyone is really LI and that our bodies just adapt to drinking milk from another species?

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Ok, I'm sorry for asking what may be an uneducated question (but that's how we get educated right?).  Naturally, with my recent engagment there are children questions.  My husband to be is omni but I plan is to raise my (possible child) as vegan as possible and allow them to make their own choices when they get old enough.  The questions I'm getting are if I'm vegan while I'm pregnant, my child may be born with lactose intolerance.  I think this is silly because I know plenty of people who are lactose intolerant and their parents ate meat, but still, is there any information on this?  I'm going to have to prepare myself with an arsenal of data. 

Here's some info from the NIH on lactose intolerance: http://digestive.niddk.nih.gov/ddiseases/pubs/lactoseintolerance/#cause

If you're lactose-intolerant, your child may or may not be depending on the way their body is programed to produce lactase.  We really aren't meant to drink milk past early childhood (breast or any kind for that matter), which is why after age 2 (like the article says), the body's production of lactase slows down.  For some people, this slow-down is drastic and causes an intolerance; for others, it's not that drastic and they are able to digest lactose without any problem.

I don't think it has anything to do with a vegan pregnancy.  Perhaps not giving your child milk from an animal (human or otherwise) might make his/her body stop producing lactase in large quantities, therefore making them more intolerant, but this latter idea is really just something I'm guessing on because it makes sense to me--not backed by hard evidence.

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My husband to be is omni but I plan is to raise my (possible child) as vegan as possible and allow them to make their own choices when they get old enough.

Biodancer, I'm just wondering if your husband to be has been consulted on this.  For it to go smoothly I think it would need to be a mutual decision.

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My husband to be is omni but I plan is to raise my (possible child) as vegan as possible and allow them to make their own choices when they get old enough.

Biodancer, I'm just wondering if your husband to be has been consulted on this.  For it to go smoothly I think it would need to be a mutual decision.

We've talked about it.  He still seems a little afraid of problems with adequate nutrition, health problems, etc.  I think most of the concern is me being vegan while I'm pregnant and the baby being healthy.  It's still an issue that needs ironing out which is why I would like to get as much data as possible if/when the time comes. 

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