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Hi, I'm new to this board, although I've been reading it for awhile.  I was wondering if anyone had advice for what to do with my omnivorous boyfriend.  He's always been VERY supportive of me and my veganism, and has expressed some interest in trying it out himself.  The only problem is, he keeps making excuses why not to... he works 30 hrs/week and has a full class schedule, so he claims he has no time to eat vegan (I have the same conditions...), he says he doesn't know what to look for (even though I do and am more than willing to help him), and furthermore he says he doesn't have the willpower, since he's grown up eating meat and dairy at every single meal and craves it too much.  He'll eat anything I cook for him, it's just he doesn't know what to do for himself.  Do you guys have any suggestions as to how I can motivate, encourage, and teach him?  I'm not sure if he will make the full switch, at least not all at once, but any change would be progress :)

I don't know, but I do love your vegweb name.  :)

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Oh God, this sounds familiar! Mine works ten hour days and will have toast for breakfast, nothing for lunch if he can't be bothered to take in a packed meal, then toast for dinner when he gets home at 10pm. He then complains to me that he's always hungry, but he can't possibly cook himself some pasta when he gets in because he's 'too tired'.

I make batches of soup and chili and stuff when I'm home and give him boxes of it for his freezer but apparently microwaving is too strenuous for the poor darling too.

If anyone knows the secret to motivating boyfriends, please tell us!

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Is it possible he just doesn't know how to cook veg food?  Maybe he needs a cookbook or two.  Some are written with time in mind.

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I think you should cook with him every opportunity you get! Show him that it doesn't have to be hard or strenuous or too time-consuming... I never really mind the time it takes to cook because I love it, but I understand that many people see it as a chore that just cuts into their free time. Make it a fun activity for the two of you to do together! Instead of going to a movie, bake something vegan. Instead of laying on the couch zoning out, make a yummy vegan casserole.

Maybe once he sees that it can be fun (and delicious)--and once he starts to notice all the positive effects of eating this way, he'll be more open to making the switch.

All that being said, he won't be able to switch until he truly wants to. I thought about becoming vegan (and read about it & was interested in it) for several years before I felt committed to doing it. I had so many excuses (that I only had to make to myself, as I wasn't being pressured by anyone else)--I love cheese too much. I don't have enough time to cook vegan. It's too expensive. I won't ever be able to eat out at restaurants again.

Then, one day (literally), I woke up & did it. I realized all my excuses were dumb, and I was only going to keep thinking about how much I wanted to go vegan until I just did it. I had slowly been buying only vegan grocery items and phasing out all the animal products in my pantry. Then I thought, "Now is the time to do it. Enough excuses." And I'm SO glad I did! Everything I gave up has been rewarded to me 100-fold.

Sorry for the novel! Jeez... But if/when your boyfriend truly wants to make the switch, he'll do it & be glad he did! Until then, I think all you can do is show him how fun, yummy, rewarding, easy, etc. the vegan lifestyle can be! :) Good luck!

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Well, you're way ahead of me and my bf.  Mine will eat anything I cook (or happen to have in the house...he's a freakin food vacuum!)...but I'm pretty sure he will never try to really be veg*n. 
He sweetly teases me that his tennis game is going to suffer because of lack of protein in his girlfriend's cooking.  ::)

Anyway - just let your bf coast with whatever he wants to eat, and don't pressure him about changing.  If he has questions, answer them...and offer suggestions.  Any change in his diet is really up to him, and if it's not something he's really committed to, it won't happen.  It's also possible that he's just taking baby steps, which is fine.  It's great that he's so supportive of you!

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Thanks guys, I think I'm gonna try cooking with him this weekend and give him stuff to take home, maybe even take him grocery shopping with me to show him at least what I look for and such, since he doesn't seem to know much about vegetables (he didn't know what a zuchinni was until last week...  ???)  I remember I was really hesitant about vegetarianism too until one day I just did it (veganism just seemed right to me after that, and didn't require much debate thankfully), so I can definitely be patient with him, no matter what he chooses :)

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Another way to make it fun might be a trip to the local farmers market - seeing all that fresh, colorful produce just tantalizes the tastebuds! And you'll definitely find something that you don't know what it is, so you can experiment how to cook/eat it together.

It may be a smidge intimidating that you are the holder of the information and skill, and he is the 'lesser' of the two of you because he doesn't have your committment. Not sure if that's really a dynamic at play, but a thought.

If that is having a bit of an impact, taking a vegetarian cooking class (you can call the instructor in advance, most veggie instructors are super vegan-friendly and knowledgeable about how to adapt their class plans) together. That way he gets to learn, and spend time with you, but you're getting a "guided tour" about the HOWS of cooking, not just the WHATS.

Good luck!

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Hi, I'm new to this board, although I've been reading it for awhile.  I was wondering if anyone had advice for what to do with my omnivorous boyfriend.  He's always been VERY supportive of me and my veganism, and has expressed some interest in trying it out himself.  The only problem is, he keeps making excuses why not to... he works 30 hrs/week and has a full class schedule, so he claims he has no time to eat vegan (I have the same conditions...), he says he doesn't know what to look for (even though I do and am more than willing to help him), and furthermore he says he doesn't have the willpower, since he's grown up eating meat and dairy at every single meal and craves it too much.  He'll eat anything I cook for him, it's just he doesn't know what to do for himself.  Do you guys have any suggestions as to how I can motivate, encourage, and teach him?  I'm not sure if he will make the full switch, at least not all at once, but any change would be progress :)

OK first thing, help me understand all the terms I see on this board..........

Omni = ?

OK, so I recently became a vegaterain again about a year ago, but I would always cook for my wife and I who both ate fish. Now I always did the cooking in our house as the wife is not good at that sort of thing. So unless I want mac and cheese or a frozen pizza I had to cook. Until recently we have always had shitty kitchens, no counter space, poor old appliances etc. But about 3 months ago I finished gutting and rebuilding our kitchen so have tonnes of space to spread all my stuff around. I bought on of those under the counter TV things about 2 months ago and being as that is hooked up to my TiVo I can cook and watch my shows at the same time which is great.

Now I just love to cook for my wife and I and enjoy having meat eaters over and see their reaction to my vegan meals. I am slowly progressing to veganism as my refrigerator empties daily!

So your b/f, if he is not into cooking then I don't really know what to suggest apart from cooking together or rewarding him with some beer at the end of the meal? I would pick his fav meals and turn them veggie, say chili, or curry or burger.

Men in all honesty are like dogs, they will do anything if they think there is a reward at the end for them. As for the reward you know your boyfriend better than we do.

Good luck

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OK first thing, help me understand all the terms I see on this board..........

Omni = ?

Omni is short for Omnivore (eats everything - bears are omnivores) verses
Herbivore (eat mainly or exclusively plants - cows are herbivores) and
Carnivore (eats mainly or exclusively meat - cats are carnivores)

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Men in all honesty are like dogs, they will do anything if they think there is a reward at the end for them. As for the reward you know your boyfriend better than we do.

LMAO! 

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Men in all honesty are like dogs, they will do anything if they think there is a reward at the end for them. As for the reward you know your boyfriend better than we do.

I am in a similar boat as Adrian, my boyfriend and I both became vegetarians about a week ago... but he's having a very hard time with it. This quote is probably the best advice EVER!

;D

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