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Another child?

I have one, I love him so much that I am dying to have another one.  I have no idea why, as my son keeps me busy and broke.  But whenever I see a newborn, or hear one cry I get this feeling  like:  ohhhh, I so want to go through that again!  Of course not right now as I would need sperm donar, dont' have one.  Would be nice to have a hubby the second time around, but if I get to be 35 and still  no man in sight I was thinking of either adopting or doing a sperm bank. 

I am 31 now.  I love being single as I think it strengthens the relationship between my son and I.  But I want one more, I want to give my son a brother or sister, I was raised an only child and always wished that I had had a brother or sister.

What about you, do you want another?  What about the environmental empacts to the fact there the human race is over populated?  Why would you like another?

I'm not in a position to have children right now, but please don't have another child if you are having difficulty finding the resources to support your first child.  That is irresponsible.  Wait until you have more money, a good place to live, health insurance, a full time job, (a good dad?), before you take on more than you can handle.

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I'm not in a position to have children right now, but please don't have another child if you are having difficulty finding the resources to support your first child.  That is irresponsible.  Wait until you have more money, a good place to live, health insurance, a full time job, (a good dad?), before you take on more than you can handle.

I have to say that I agree with this.  SQ, you are blessed that you have a wonderful son, and it seems like you shouldn't add more children to your family until you are more equipped to do so.  I think you started a thread not too long ago about not being able to afford being vegan even though you really want to, and obviously having another child will not lessen your financial stress.

Oh, also - in your post here, you say "I have no idea why" .  Maybe you should explore that feeling a little bit.  Really, you should know WHY you want another baby.  I don't think it's uncommon for women to see babies & think in an abstract way, "Oh, I want one."  But having a child should be a responsible decision that takes many factors into account.  Also, don't worry about your son having a brother or sister.  Plenty of people are happy only children.

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Plenty of people are happy only children.

Look at AllyChristine!  Perfectly well adjusted! ;)

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Plenty of people are happy only children.

Look at AllyChristine!  Perfectly well adjusted! ;)

Helllloooo,  I KNOW!!!!!!  I guess I made it sound as if I was going to do that didn't I?  I was thinking that in a few years I would either a) have a hubby, or b) be more in a position with more money to be able to have another child.  My situation right now is that I have a full time job and am working in my field, but I am getting paid way less than I am worth because of the bad economy.  In a few years I plan to get a better job with better pay...assuming that the economy will be better.  Don't worry, I am not THAT irresponsible!!!

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maybe you can connect with other moms and do some kind of daycare swap program. that could help you get your fix for some baby cuddles AND give your son some friends to play with at the same time.

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maybe you can connect with other moms and do some kind of daycare swap program. that could help you get your fix for some baby cuddles AND give your son some friends to play with at the same time.

^^This^^

This is actually one of the reasons I'm a nanny and why I loved working as a petfood demonstrator. I get paid to get my 'baby'/'puppy' fixes!!

It felt sooooooooooo good the other week, visiting a childhood friend who had a child a few months ago, to have an infant in my arms again!! It was really hard to give him back.... So I think I can sympathize with you SQ.

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I believe that overpopulation is a myth. I believe there is plenty of room for all of us and that our resources are just poorly managed. So population has no bearing on how many children I have. Besides I have a feeling that the world needs my children.  ;) I plan on having 2 kids because its all we can afford, plus I dont want to be spread to thin. I want their to be at least a 3 year gap between them so I can manage them better. A three year old will understand bit better when I say, "Hang on, mama's just doing _____ with the baby", than my now 2 year old. I love that I got to put all this time into my first child and really stand on my own 2 feet as a parent. She has taught me so much and it will be nice to be able to use my experience in raising the second child.

Thats the way I see it, but I am sure other people see it different.

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Personally, I have one daughter who is now 13 months old. Before having kids I wanted two - direct population replacement because I believe that there are way too many people on this planet. I think our ranks have grown a little too large, but that the problem will probably rectify itself once we can take reproductive rights and the availability of birth control worldwide. There is nothing preying on us to keep our numbers in check, save the Covenant showing up out of the blue, so we are responsible ourselves for staying at a population density that the planet can take without too much stress on the environment. At this current point in our tech tree, we are not doing so well, so I believe we need to have less of us around for the time being or come up with cleaner tech and more environmentally farming methods fast.

Now that I have one child and I really have not slept in a year plus now, I can truly say that I do not want more kids. I have spent many years working with toddlers and kids, but nothing prepared me for having a baby. I do not really care to go though this again at this time. Maybe down the road I will want another, but for now I am relishing the little bits of time I have with my SO.

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