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Can't enjoy sex without being drunk?

I was wondering if anyone else has this problem. I can only very rarely enjoy sex unless I'm drunk. If this happens to you, how do you deal with it? Just get drunk all the time? That pretty much rules out Sunday-Thursday sex for me, because I have 8am classes on during the week and just can't pay attention if I've been drunk the night before. Plus, it makes my boyfriend uncomfortable, because he drinks but I get drunk way faster (mostly because it's my goal, in order to have sex).

I don't know why this is, but my thoughts are one of two things:

(1) the bf isn't.... very experienced, and he finishes.... pretty quickly (orgasms on my part are rare), and the durnkness adds a whole dimension of... disorientation, where I don't know where I am let alone where he is, or what I'm touching, or what he's going to be touching, and it just makes everything surprising and more exciting, and it's that psychological aspect which does the trick.

(2) I was raped by a previous bf and lots of times just something touches something in some way that reminds me of it and I just become scared. This happens to varying degrees; usually it happens and I can just switch positions so that I'm on top and calling the shots, and that sort of convinces my body's instincts that I'm not being raped--sometimes though we have to pause or stop altogether.

Any ideas? Anybody have something similar happen? It's totally a drag, because the bf gets to come every time, but I gotta be drunk for an orgasm!

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