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Dreams and ex's....

For the last couple of months I keep on having a dream that I'm having sex with my ex boyfriend. As you know you can't really control your dreams and it just keeps on happening no matter what I do. Do you think this means that I want to be back with him?  :-\

it probably just means you want to have sex with him.  have you slept with anyone else since?  it's probably just your subconscious sexual frustration.

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well, if you don't think it's sexual frustration, then maybe it is more of an emotional thing.  i definitely have sex dreams about a specific ex when i haven't been getting any for a while though

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I've been having those too.  I think for me it is a way to work through my feelings.  It really throws me off when it happens...I spend the whole day thinking we're back together.  I'm learning not to act on my feelings/unconscious manifestations.  ::)

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Speaking of ex-boyfriends and dreams....

My boyfriend and I of 3 years broke up in April of 2008 and this summer I had at least two vivid dreams of me punching the heck out of him. In both of those dreams I woke up punching my mattress..... Just a little violent.....

He deserved it though.  ;)

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I am constantly dreaming I have sex with other people (besides dh). I remember my dreams almost every night, so that could be why there's more. Its usually this guy I had a big crush on in HS> We have never even really spoken, but he sure likes to pop up in my dreams. Also, there's exes and just people from the past in general (like my gay best friend from FL). I don't think it really means anything. Its sort of fun.

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I actually dreamed that I physically harmed my ex, it was so real and woke up scared that I had actually done something.
The other night I dreamed that the was a woman swinging, we were having fun and  our lips meet and she asked if I love her.
I dont know who the woman was in the dream, but it was the single most sweetest dream I have ever had. Makes me hopeful.

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It could just mean you're having a dream that you're having sex with your ex..it doesn't have to mean anything..unless you're Freud, I guess.

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I am constantly dreaming I have sex with other people (besides dh). I remember my dreams almost every night, so that could be why there's more. Its usually this guy I had a big crush on in HS> We have never even really spoken, but he sure likes to pop up in my dreams. Also, there's exes and just people from the past in general (like my gay best friend from FL). I don't think it really means anything. Its sort of fun.

me too!! i have dreams about several ex's and random people, but rarely michael.  i told him this the other day and he just passed it off as nothing.  i was kind of surprised.  i thought he would be mad.. not like i can control it.  but still.

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It could just mean you're having a dream that you're having sex with your ex..it doesn't have to mean anything..unless you're Freud, I guess.

And it doesn't have to mean that you want to have sex with your ex. Or have sex. Everything in the dream could be representative of something else. What does your ex mean to you - good times, bad times? What does sex mean to you - closeness, connection, satisfaction? It could be anything!

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It could just mean you're having a dream that you're having sex with your ex..it doesn't have to mean anything..unless you're Freud, I guess.

And it doesn't have to mean that you want to have sex with your ex. Or have sex. Everything in the dream could be representative of something else. What does your ex mean to you - good times, bad times? What does sex mean to you - closeness, connection, satisfaction? It could be anything!

My point!

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Let's get all psychological... anyone have Freud's The Interpretation of Dreams book?

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I would really like to know the interpretation on this one.

I'm sure you can look it up online. Just pick apart the concrete items/symbols in it and find a dream dictionary online.

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until you learned your lessons from that relationship.

Dreams are very rarely prophetic.

I believe that everything we go through in life has something to offer us, and we keep repeating that experience until we learn the lesson we are supposed to learn.

I think the rarely prophetic thing sums it up nicely; it probably has nothing to do with the ex at all. Maybe it's about letting go in general or something. I don't know; I don't give much credence to dreams, but I think they're cool and they have interesting meanings as you researched and provided.

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:)

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I believe that everything we go through in life has something to offer us, and we keep repeating that experience until we learn the lesson we are supposed to learn.

this is something i've known in my head but thanks for writing it out here.  this is 100% relevant to my open letter from earlier.

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this is something i've known in my head but thanks for writing it out here.  this is 100% relevant to my open letter from earlier.

The never being in a relationship? 

IMO, everyone is put into my life for a reason; either to show me I'd like to be more like or something I'd not like to be like. To teach me something. To show me something inside me that I was unaware of; that I didn't know I had-- a strength or weakness perhaps-- whatever it may be. The possibilities are endless.

Every relationship, intimate/sexual/friendship/etc can be boiled down to a learning experience for me. The good ones and the bad ones. Take what you want/need from all and leave the rest.

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this is something i've known in my head but thanks for writing it out here.  this is 100% relevant to my open letter from earlier.

The never being in a relationship? 

IMO, everyone is put into my life for a reason; either to show me I'd like to be more like or something I'd not like to be like. To teach me something. To show me something inside me that I was unaware of; that I didn't know I had-- a strength or weakness perhaps-- whatever it may be. The possibilities are endless.

Every relationship, intimate/sexual/friendship/etc can be boiled down to a learning experience for me. The good ones and the bad ones. Take what you want/need from all and leave the rest.

totally.  without even knowing it he makes me think about shit that i'd rather ignore cus it makes me feel bad, which makes me not want to be around him in any serious-relationship-kinda-way.  it's much easier to keep him away than to deal with the issues.. ugh.

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I've been told if I don't take risks I can't get hurt.
I was like, "duh, exactly!"
But then it was brought to my attention that really, what is the worst that can happen? I'm not going to die. Sure, uncomfortable. Maybe embarrassing depending on the situation. Something to learn from it and to build upon? For sure. So I've taken a few lately and... not so bad.

Nothing in the relationship realm, mind you, but doing things I never thought I'd do, and it feels good!

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yeah.. i was in a 5 and a half year relationship, so in addition to the above reasons i kinda just really like being single and not feeling like i have answer to anybody.  i know i'm capable of committing but i don't know if i really want to yet.  (even though i'm almost 30 and should grow up already and just figure all this shit out..)  getting old sucks!

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Nothing in the relationship realm, mind you, but doing things I never thought I'd do, and it feels good!

This is basically where I am.

In the words of Rihanna,

Just live ya life
Ayyyayyy ayyayyy ayayyyy
No tellin' where it'll take yahhh

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