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So I come to you, dear vegwebbers, with a situation I'm currently in. This guy at work approaches me and basically asks if I want to have a 3-some with him and his girlfriend. I tell him I'm not interested, because I'm not into girls. Fast forward to a few hours later, when he tells me he'd like to "hang out" and that his girlfriend would be totally aware of it, and okay with it.

Does anyone have any experience with this kind of thing? I mean, this guy is totally my type and I'm not trying to date him. I just want to fuck him (too blunt?). At any rate, I'm slightly weary that he may still try to get me to engage in a 3some (which isn't happening until he gets a hot male roommate and re-introduces the idea)... but I could be overreacting a little bit.

Anyway, sup? Tell me first-hand experiences, stories, etc.

Also, I should mention that we work in different departmentss at work and never have to work closely with one another and dating/fucking is not prohibited unless you work in the same department. So my job isn't on the line... not that it would really matter. I don't plan on sticking around and could find another job really quickly if needed

I don't have any first hand experience, but I think as long as you are up front about what you want and all parties are cool with it everything is game.

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I don't see the harm, but as long as you know that SHE knows.  He could totally just be saying that, and you could be screwing some chick over.  Or rather, screwing her boyfriend over....Are you friends with the girl at all?  Could you verify it?

Also, I wouldn't really worry about the threesome.  Just say, you're not into threesomes with women.  Worst that can happen, he DOES ask you to do a threesome after you have become more involved with him, and you say no and goodbye.  I don't see the big deal.

But yeah, I'd be wary unless I knew for sure that the girl was down with it.  Then it's all good!

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if she really is ok with it, then go for it.  But only if you are really sure that she's cool about it.

It's quite possible that he'll bring up the threesome thing again though, so be prepared for that.  Or it may be possible that he asks if it's ok for his girlfriend to watch - how would you be with that?

If it does all go tits up (sorry for the pun?) are you sure you'll be able to get another job?  Or is it possible to avoid each other as you work in different departments?  Although it shouldn't get too uncomfortable, if you're both clear from the beginning that it is just a fuck and nothing more. And you stick no strings atached.

I had a work fuck buddy once, and it got messy as I ended up having feelings for the guy, and he pretended to have feelings for me but he didn't really.  We worked so closely together it wouldn't have been posible to avoid each other.  He ended up changing jobs, changing his mobile number and home number just to get avoid having to dump me, but that's a whole other story!

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Ditto all of the above.  Make sure the girl is down with it first, then go for it.

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I betcha the responses are going to fall in line with the open relationship thread (which I can't find Polyamory).

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Ditto all of the above.  Make sure the girl is down with it first, then go for it.

+1

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Nashville has turned you into a man whore

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You think it didn't start until Nashville?  ;)

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On the other hand, you have to obligation to this girl. He does.
If he doesn't fool around with you, it will be someone else.
You might as well let it be you he fucks (or gets fucked by) if you want it.
And you said it had been a while, right?
I mean, maybe if they were married it might be cool to do some checking around about the girl, but heck, you ain't married!
Just hope she isn't some psycho who will boil your pet rabbit on the stove.

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I know her and she's a pretty cool girl. I'm going to talk to her and double check that it's all cool before going through with anything.

Nashville has turned you into a man whore

The manwhore was in me the whole time... it just needed to be brought out! Californian fags aren't my thing!

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Why not go for the threesome? Just pretend she isn't there and get on him!

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Why not go for the threesome? Just pretend she isn't there and get on him!

Why would I do that when I could have him all to myself without some weird floppy titties in the way?!

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watch your mouth! your on vegweb.
my titties are neither weird nor floppy, thankyouverymuch.

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just dream she is some hot country boy like Josh Turner

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Oh if you know her then you are all set.  Just talk to her.  Easy peasy.

lol, ew, don't go in for the threesome if you don't want to.  That's terrible.  I can't imagine having a threesome with someone of the gender I wasn't attracted to (women for me too, haha).  Let us know what happens!  I can't wait to hear!

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take pictures

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UPDATE: He actually quit yesterday, and today tells me that his gf wants to watch. I'm not 100% comfortable with that idea just yet... so this may be a work in progress!

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Lucky Girl! Totally jealous.

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Lucky Girl! Totally jealous.

SB said he will have a 3some with you and your husband when we come visit

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I can see the gf causing drama.  You shouldn't include her.  But you should record it and post it for us.

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