Marriage and dating..
I was just curious, how many people are married or dating a Vegan/Vegetarian/Carnivore?
And what's it like?
I've never really been with a meat-eater, but I don't think it would effect much.
Love is love, I think.
I am in a long-term relationship with the greatest guy ever. He respects my beliefs and feelings enough that, although he is not vegetarian, he does not bring meat into our apartment. He also doesn't eat meat in front of me when we eat out aside from the occasional seafood.
I feel very lucky to be with someone who really respects me and loves me enough to consider what I have to say. He has told me that he's going to gradually cut out red meat, then chicken, and eventually be a pescetarian. I didn't ask him to do that, but he says that he understands the health benefits and he doesn't want to contribute to animal suffering. Heck, he even started buying local eggs when he can find them.
I think any combination of eating habits can work as long as both are willing to compromise. My boyfriend is very willing to be honest with himself and me and say that "food is food, vegetarian or not I'll eat it." Many people who eat meat wouldn't see it that way.
My most recent 'serious' relationship was with a carnivore - but she didn't drink milk, and came from a 'health-food' family, so as long as I looked the other way when we went to sushi restaurants, it worked out. My father's first wife went vegetarian with him, after she died he married an omni, and after she died (he's had some bad luck, I admit), he married a pescetarian who has since gone vegetarian in all but name.
I agree that love is love, and if I can deal with cooking offal for my cat, I can deal with lovers who eat sashimi. Besides, being ever in the company of a vegan would likely lead to a general decrease of animal-consumption. Subtle but effective veg-ministry? I prefer not to think of it like that, though. It kind of... cheapens the relationship, IMO.
This is an interesting topic. My boyfriend is an omnivore but he sure does love my vegan cooking and he respects my beliefs and ethics. Our different lifestyles haven't been an issue and neither one of us would force the other to change, though I admit, it is a little hurtful and gross to watch him buying and consuming meat sometimes. It would be nice if he were vegan but who knows, maybe I'll rub off on him!
And yes, if there is real love it cuts through and overrides the differences you might have with that person. With love there is respect, and "All you need is love, love....love is all you need...Love is all you need!" (some Beatles for you :P)
I've dated vegetarians, vegans, and omni's... and a "pescetarian" ::)
It didn't make that much of a difference, but I prefer my womenz to be of the vegan variety.
my boyfriend was vegan when i met him, and i wasn't even vegetarian yet. he put up with me and i remember the ONLY time he ever said anything to me was once when i ate a tuna sammich he said it was gross. eventually, i started eating what he was eating while we were together, mostly because it was easier, but also because i was interested in his lifestyle. then i went vegetarian and started cooking vegan for him. then i went vegan too.
My ex said he'd convert for me. I didn't want him to do it for me, I wanted him to do it for his own reasons. My biggest problem was with fish. The night I broke up with him, he had tuna for lunch, and told him I wouldn't kiss him because it was gross. Then at dinner he ordered fish tacos. Ass.
When my boy and I got together three years ago, he was omni although he never ate massive amounts of meat (mostly because he was a fussy eater and lazy about cooking). Having poked him into trying lots of different foods, mostly my vegetarian cooking, he decided to go vegetarian himself when he started back at uni (September). Two months and he's really enjoying it! But I had real reservations when he first said he wanted to and made him promise it was something HE wanted and not one of those, "She'll love me more if I..."
Seems like he's in it for the right reasons though, so like Narcissus I think it must be a good form of propaganda, dating a veggie!
yeah, i don't date much... and have never dated a vegan BUT i do think it would be cool. i am not one of the "they MUST be vegan"-people, though.
I have been married for twenty something years. We were both omni when we met. I eventually went vegetarian /sometimes vegan. He never complained though. When the kids were small most of the meals were veg*n...(5 to 6 days a week.) As they got older (teenage) they began wanted more meat. I think it was partially a rebellion thing because when they were small they ate everything happily (tofu nuggets dipped in ketchup was awesome as teenagers it became eeewwww.) Two of them are now young adults (19, 23) and I think they learned good eating habits from me that they probably will return to as they get older.
OK, before (read: two weeks ago) I thought I could only ever date veg*ns. But now I don't think it matters as much.
Buuuuut, I cannot date assholes. And any non-asshole would be cool with veganism and would even do nifty things like point out vegan restaurants that we could go to. (Which, by the way, comes from recent experience.... ^-^)
So I prefer to discriminate along asshole/non-asshole lines rather than vegan/nonvegan lines. Though vegan is ideal.
Meh. I think it'd be pretty great to date a vegan. I've never dated one and have had bad experiences with omins. (To clarify, they were all-around bad experiences, and I do think it could work out with the right omni).
But a vegan would be great.
I would definately prefer dating a vegan or vegetarian but since I've never met any cool veg*n men remotely near my age....the omni's won out. :)
I was vegetarian long-term when my husband and I started dating. In the beginning, he was on the asshole side of the line (according to KMK's guidelines), but he was pretty immature at that time. He became vegetarian a few years later, and about 2-3 months later we both became vegan. I wouldn't have it any other way....but I wouldn't have any other husband either.
In the beginning, he was on the asshole side of the line
In the beginning, he was on the asshole side of the line
I told him, "btw I said you were on the asshole side of the line when we were first dating. Do you want to hear what I said?"
He said, "No! Because it's apparently pretty bad."
My boyfriend is omni and that's fine by me...he loves my cooking, and he cooks really nice vege food for us when we cook together, if he wants meat he sorts it all himself (buying, preparing, cooking, eating) and I don't have a problem with it. Since I've been vegetarian my whole life it's just something that he accepted as part of the deal, and he's open minded and supportive but makes his own choices and I completely respect that. And I'm feeling so supported now that I'm going vegan, as many people have said it's mutual love and respect that make a relationship rather than mutual diet.
Years ago I was with a long term boyfriend who said he wanted to become a vegetarian too and said it was all for his own reasons (I never asked him to or pressured, I always said that it didn't matter to me in the slightest) blah blah basically not much further down the track he wanted meat again but didn't want to tell me so he started sneaking off and secretly scoffing meat which I found so weird...I never pressured him to go vege in the first place, it made me more annoyed that he was trying to live a lie.
I'd much rather be with my lovely supportive omnivorous boyfriend than one who thinks that deceiving me is going to make me happy!
I was an omni when I met my wife who is still a pescaterian. If I were to find myself out on the market again I don't think i could have a serious relashionship with anyone who was an omni, I don't think? Now I don't think it would matter too much for casual dating or a quick roll in the hay. ;)b
I think the hardest part would be to share a cooker/fridge with someone who was omni. I think I could tolerate vegetarian and pescatarian (I do now I guess) but meat.....NFW!
The trouble is your reducing your "mate" pool considerably when you have there stipulations and unless you are lucky and live in some vegan utopia, if you know where one is please let me know, it's hard to meet other vegans. I know none IRL so I guess you'd have to hook up with some dating agency for vegans or hang out at the tofu section at Whole Foods in the hope of meeting a vegan hottie!
I've been married 20 years to my high school sweetheart (we started dating in 1984!) Every time one of us decides to change our diet, both of us change together. But we are atypically co-dependent. :)